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                                         Recently remarried, I have found myself with the most perfect family life. Perfect in my eyes anyways. I had been blessed with two children of my own and then added two more wonderful kids into my life. And I never wanted any of them to feel that they were any different from each other, so treated them all the same. Though when we first started dating, I had learned that the eldest son had been diagnosed with Aspergers as a child. Ok, well I definately did not see him as a child at this point, as he was already on his way to early adulthood. So, I guess I kind of passed it off as a normal common cold, he had it then, now he doesn't. And he was no 'Rainman' either. I didn't see him as different. To me he was just another normal teenage boy and I know that that in itself, toys with the word 'normal'. But everytime he would do something akward or say something that would not be to other's comfort level, it would be the Aspergers fault. Now, I am not a type of person that takes excuses lightly, so I didn't quite buy into the Aspergers thing. Maybe it's denial, since my own son was thought of having, but never diagnosed. I didn't treat him differently either. I know, I sound like a heartless person, but this kid was so functioning and he did pretty much everything independantly. So, it was hard for me to see it. I guess there are several different forms of Aspergers, but then again I think that there are several different forms of "normal", as well. He gets along with our other kids, other family members, is an Eagle Boy Scout and works with the Masons, but yet is supposidly a social outcast. Unfortunately, I  never had the opportunity to spend time with him as a child and maybe if I did, I would see things differently. But on the other hand I have stepped into his life, perhaps at a better time. I see him for the wonderful person that he has grown into and I see that he continuously works on improving his life.